Life and Mindset Coaching for Women 40s and 50s
When the role that defined you shifts, it can feel like the ground is gone. I help you figure out who you are now, and what comes next.
No pitch. Just a real conversation about where you are and where you want to go.
"When my kids left, I didn't know who I was anymore. That's exactly why I do this work."
Cyndy Fairbanks
About Cyndy
When my kids left home, I didn't have a roadmap. I had credentials, a good life on paper, and a quiet house that felt like a stranger's. That experience is what led me to this work.
I'm a certified life and mindset coach trained in The Model by Brooke Castillo at The Life Coach School. I also integrate somatic nervous system regulation into every client relationship, because thought work lands differently when your body isn't in a state of stress. I work with women in their 40s and 50s who are navigating the kind of transition that makes you question everything.
"I help women rediscover who they are when the role that defined them changes."
Is this for you?
This work is for women who are navigating real transitions, not vague restlessness.
The kids are gone and the quiet is louder than you expected. You don't know who you are outside of that role, and you're not sure where to start.
Your marriage is ending or has ended. You need to rebuild not just your life, but your sense of yourself as a woman who is more than that relationship.
You spent years building something that no longer fits. You want work that matters, but you're not sure what that looks like yet or how to get there.
Something shifted and you don't recognize the life you're living. The question "who am I now?" keeps surfacing, and you're ready to actually answer it.
You stepped away from a career that defined you for decades. Now what? You want this chapter to mean something, not just be a waiting room.
You are learning to live as yourself again after building a life around someone else. Grief and identity are both real here, and both deserve space.
Work with me
Every path starts with a real conversation. No scripts, no pressure.
A real conversation about where you are, what you're navigating, and whether working together makes sense. No pitch.
Deep, focused work for women ready to make real change. We meet weekly, go beneath the surface, and build a life that reflects who you are now.
Review the program below, then apply.
Need focused help with one specific challenge? An intensive session to get unstuck, gain clarity, and leave with a clear path forward.
Program details
Review the full program details below. When you're ready, apply and Cyndy will reach out personally within 24 hours.
This is where the real work begins. Over 90 days we go beneath the patterns, the stories, and the roles that have been running your life. You will leave with clarity, tools you keep using, and a way of thinking about yourself that does not crumble under pressure.
Cyndy reviews every application personally and responds within 24 hours.
For women navigating a more complex or layered transition, such as divorce alongside identity reset, or a career change mid-grief. Six months gives us the depth and time to not just understand what happened, but build what comes next from the ground up.
Cyndy reviews every application personally and responds within 24 hours.
How it works
Tell Cyndy a little about what you're navigating. The application takes about 5 minutes and helps her understand where you are.
Cyndy reviews every application personally and reaches out within 24 hours with a personal link to schedule your call.
A real conversation. No pitch. Just clarity about what you need and whether working together is the right fit.
Weekly sessions, real tools, and consistent support. You leave each session with clarity on exactly what to do next.
Client stories
"I kept waiting to feel like myself again after my youngest left. Cyndy helped me see that the woman I was waiting to find had been there the whole time. I just needed to stop grieving the old role long enough to meet her."
"After my divorce I thought I just needed time. What I actually needed was someone to help me figure out who I was outside of that marriage. Cyndy does not let you stay stuck. She is warm and direct in equal measure and that is exactly what I needed."
"I had a career, a title, a salary. When I walked away I felt like I had nothing to say about who I was. Three months with Cyndy and I stopped introducing myself by what I used to do. That shift sounds small. It was everything."
FAQ
Therapy is designed to help you understand and heal from the past. Coaching is designed to help you figure out where you are now and build what comes next. The two can absolutely work together. Many of Cyndy's clients are also working with a therapist. The work here focuses on your current thinking, the decisions in front of you, and the life you want to build going forward.
Sessions are 60 minutes, held over video call. Cyndy works with The Model by Brooke Castillo alongside somatic nervous system regulation tools. Most sessions start with what is happening right now, go into the thinking underneath it, and leave you with something concrete to do or notice before the next session. There is structure, but the work is personal to you.
You don't have to be ready. You have to be willing. If you are at a point where you know something needs to change and you are open to doing the actual thinking work, that is enough to start. The discovery call is a good place to figure out the rest of that together.
Yes. The 3-month program can be paid in 3 monthly payments of $699. The 6-month program can be paid in 6 monthly payments of $599. Full payment is also accepted. Both options are available when you enroll.
All sessions are held over video call, so your location doesn't matter. Cyndy works with women across the US and internationally. Time zone logistics are usually easy to work out during the scheduling process.
Cyndy reads every application personally. You'll receive a personal response within 24 hours. If it looks like a fit, she'll send you a scheduling link for a discovery call. That conversation is where you both decide if it makes sense to work together.
The Model, developed by Brooke Castillo at The Life Coach School, is a framework for understanding how your thoughts create your feelings, which drive your actions, which produce your results. Somatic regulation refers to tools that help your nervous system come out of stress or shutdown so that thought work can actually land. Cyndy uses both together because the body and the mind are not separate problems.
Yes. The single session is 60 minutes and costs $250. It is designed for women who want to work through one specific decision or moment rather than committing to a full program. Many single session clients choose to continue into the 3-month program. Either way, you leave with something useful.
Free Guide
A practical guide for women navigating the emotional and identity shift of empty nest. What to expect, what is normal, and how to start building what comes next.
No spam ever. Just the guide and the occasional note from Cyndy when she has something worth sharing.
What to expect. What is normal. How to start building what comes next.